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12 years ago, I woke up in the worst pain of my life. I had been asleep in the passenger seat of the car and now, I found myself unable to speak. My body was in agony, and I could barely comprehend what was happening. “Mmm, mmm, mmm,” I murmured, trying to get words out.… Read more

Telling a woman to “look on the bright side” or “be positive” after she has lost a baby is, in my experience and opinion, a form of psychological abuse. Society often expects bereaved mothers to move on quickly and to suppress their grief to avoid making others uncomfortable. When we are told to “be positive”… Read more

Yesterday, I was talking to a woman I’d just met. She asked me how many kids I have, and I said I have a son who is 9 and a daughter in heaven. I explained I’d lost her to stillbirth at 8 months pregnant. The young woman’s response was filled with care. She asked, “What’s… Read more

I think of you, every time I see a pregnant woman, for the last time I held you alive, you were in my womb. I feel a tremendous amount of guilt for complaining about the physical discomfort of carrying you in my body, I’d give anything to have you back in my belly, healthy and… Read more

Being a mother is a journey filled with profound joy, love, and challenges. While the world often celebrates the arrival of a new baby, the journey of motherhood can take many forms, including the heart-wrenching experience of stillbirth. As a mother who has navigated this painful path, I understand the unique needs and challenges that… Read more

Losing a child to stillbirth can profoundly impact a woman’s relationship with her body. The feelings of self-blame, shame, and guilt can be overwhelming, even though deep down, we know it’s not our fault. This journey of healing involves navigating through these complex emotions and finding a way to accept, love and trust our bodies… Read more

Last week, I had a checkup with my OBGYN, an event I anticipated to be emotional but didn’t expect to hit me as hard as it did. The waiting room adorned with pictures of newborns and a noticeable absence of stillbirth-related resources made the wait excruciatingly uncomfortable. It felt like a stark reminder of what… Read more

This blog post is a reminder that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions. That’s grief, a complexity that often manifests as a whirlwind of emotions. From extreme sadness and anger to confusion and guilt, each feeling is a valid response to loss. There’s no need to sugarcoat or rationalize these emotions. In the… Read more