Author: Lament2Love
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Poem: Just Around The Bend
Just Around The Bend / Heavens Not So Far Away My precious, little innocent one, sometimes Heaven feels so far away, One moment you’re happy within me, the next, you’ve somehow slipped away. I want you back in my arms so badly, I hate that we’ve been pulled apart. The pain it always lingers now,… Read more
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It’s Not Your Fault
Losing a child to stillbirth can profoundly impact a woman’s relationship with her body. The feelings of self-blame, shame, and guilt can be overwhelming, even though deep down, we know it’s not our fault. This journey of healing involves navigating through these complex emotions and finding a way to accept, love and trust our bodies… Read more
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Postpartum Visit
Last week, I had a checkup with my OBGYN, an event I anticipated to be emotional but didn’t expect to hit me as hard as it did. The waiting room adorned with pictures of newborns and a noticeable absence of stillbirth-related resources made the wait excruciatingly uncomfortable. It felt like a stark reminder of what… Read more
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Validating Your Grief Journey
This blog post is a reminder that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions. That’s grief, a complexity that often manifests as a whirlwind of emotions. From extreme sadness and anger to confusion and guilt, each feeling is a valid response to loss. There’s no need to sugarcoat or rationalize these emotions. In the… Read more
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No “Safe Zone”
I wish someone, especially a medical professional, had emphasized to me that there is no “safe zone” in pregnancy. Despite the common belief that reaching certain milestones like the 12-week mark clears you of the risk of loss, the truth is far from it. Statistics reveal a grim reality: 1 in 4 pregnancies end in… Read more
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Two blue lines
Two years ago today, I rose with the sun to take a pregnancy test. The 5 minute wait for the results felt like an eternity, each passing minute amplifying my anticipation. I wanted to know if there was one blue line or two. I watched as the first line became visible, then the second line… Read more
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Setting Boundaries in Conversations
As a stillbirth mom, navigating conversations about my baby’s death can be tricky. While I desire to to openly communicate about my experience of loss and grief, I have found a lack of grief etiquette in our society that often times leaves me feeling infuriated. Phrases like “It wasn’t meant to be” or “God needed… Read more
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Soul-Tired Exhaustion
Losing a child is an indescribable pain, a weight that feels like an endless burden on the soul. In those moments, the exhaustion is more than physical—it’s a weariness that seeps into the very core of your being, making you question the strength to continue. Embracing the Unyielding Strength Within Continuing to live after the… Read more
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Herbs for Grief; Part 1
When I first lost my daughter, I heavily relied on herbal tinctures to get through the days and nights. In Chinese Medicine, the lungs are connected to the emotion grief. Our lungs, the breath of life, play an essential role in navigating the ebbs and flows of emotions, especially in the face of loss. Just… Read more
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Another Year Without You
As a stillbirth mom, the approach of a New Year is a bittersweet reminder that time keeps going on without our babies. For many, New Year’s Eve symbolizes fresh beginnings, resolutions, and the promise of a brighter future. However, for us, stillbirth moms who held our babies in our wombs longer than we did in… Read more