Author: Lament2Love
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Validating Your Grief Journey
This blog post is a reminder that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions. That’s grief, a complexity that often manifests as a whirlwind of emotions. From extreme sadness and anger to confusion and guilt, each feeling is a valid response to loss. There’s no need to sugarcoat or rationalize these emotions. In the… Read more
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No “Safe Zone”
I wish someone, especially a medical professional, had emphasized to me that there is no “safe zone” in pregnancy. Despite the common belief that reaching certain milestones like the 12-week mark clears you of the risk of loss, the truth is far from it. Statistics reveal a grim reality: 1 in 4 pregnancies end in… Read more
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Two blue lines
Two years ago today, I rose with the sun to take a pregnancy test. The 5 minute wait for the results felt like an eternity, each passing minute amplifying my anticipation. I wanted to know if there was one blue line or two. I watched as the first line became visible, then the second line… Read more
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Setting Boundaries in Conversations
As a stillbirth mom, navigating conversations about my baby’s death can be tricky. While I desire to to openly communicate about my experience of loss and grief, I have found a lack of grief etiquette in our society that often times leaves me feeling infuriated. Phrases like “It wasn’t meant to be” or “God needed… Read more
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Soul-Tired Exhaustion
Losing a child is an indescribable pain, a weight that feels like an endless burden on the soul. In those moments, the exhaustion is more than physical—it’s a weariness that seeps into the very core of your being, making you question the strength to continue. Embracing the Unyielding Strength Within Continuing to live after the… Read more
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Herbs for Grief; Part 1
When I first lost my daughter, I heavily relied on herbal tinctures to get through the days and nights. In Chinese Medicine, the lungs are connected to the emotion grief. Our lungs, the breath of life, play an essential role in navigating the ebbs and flows of emotions, especially in the face of loss. Just… Read more
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Another Year Without You
As a stillbirth mom, the approach of a New Year is a bittersweet reminder that time keeps going on without our babies. For many, New Year’s Eve symbolizes fresh beginnings, resolutions, and the promise of a brighter future. However, for us, stillbirth moms who held our babies in our wombs longer than we did in… Read more
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Navigating the Holidays Without Her
This marked my second Christmas without my daughter. She would have been a year old, engaging in the magic of Christmas, and mesmerized by the twinkling lights. I imagined her crawling up to a present and pulling on the wrapping paper with her tiny fingers. Instead, I found myself grappling with suppressed sadness, trying to… Read more
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Nurturing Stillbirth Moms During the Holiday Season
The holiday season, often marked by joy and celebration, can be an especially challenging time for stillbirth moms navigating the complex landscape of grief. If you’re wondering how to offer meaningful support during this season, here are some heartfelt ways to be there for a stillbirth mom: 1. Acknowledge the Loss Start by acknowledging the… Read more
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What Not to Say to Stillbirth Moms During the Holidays
The holiday season, often filled with joy and celebration, can be an emotionally challenging time for those who have experienced the profound loss of a stillbirth. Well-intentioned words, though meant to provide comfort, can sometimes inadvertently deepen the pain. As we approach this season, it’s crucial to be mindful of our words and actions. Here… Read more