Author: Lament2Love
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Navigating Body Image Struggles
I am slightly ashamed to admit that during my pregnancy and now post partum, I had major body dysmorphia. I was very uncomfortable with how much weight I was gaining during my pregnancy, as I am used to being a petite, in shape Woman. Even though I was eating healthy, I swelled up like a… Read more
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The Importance of Acknowledgement
Yesterday, I was talking to a woman I’d just met. She asked me how many kids I have, and I said I have a son who is 9 and a daughter in heaven. I explained I’d lost her to stillbirth at 8 months pregnant. The young woman’s response was filled with care. She asked, “What’s… Read more
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Poem
I think of you, every time I see a pregnant woman, for the last time I held you alive, you were in my womb. I feel a tremendous amount of guilt for complaining about the physical discomfort of carrying you in my body, I’d give anything to have you back in my belly, healthy and… Read more
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Postpartum Care for Stillbirth Mothers
Being a mother is a journey filled with profound joy, love, and challenges. While the world often celebrates the arrival of a new baby, the journey of motherhood can take many forms, including the heart-wrenching experience of stillbirth. As a mother who has navigated this painful path, I understand the unique needs and challenges that… Read more
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Herbs for Grief; Part 2
Grief is a deeply personal and often overwhelming emotion that can manifest physically, emotionally, and mentally. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing from grief, exploring natural remedies can be an empowering part of the journey. One such remedy that has gained attention for its potential in easing the symptoms of grief is passionflower.… Read more
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Herbs for Grief; Part 1
Motherwort, Leonarus cardiaca – aptly named for its association with courage and resilience, means Lion Heart. This herb serves as a steadfast companion through the tumultuous journey of grief. Personally, I leaned on it daily in the initial throes of mourning my daughter. When I returned home from the hospital, my arms and womb empty,… Read more
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Book Recommendations
In the wake of my daughter’s passing, I found myself navigating a tumultuous sea of grief, searching for something to anchor me amidst the storm. It was during those early months of mourning that I was introduced to a book that would profoundly impact my healing journey: “Empty Cradle, Broken Heart.” Written by Deborah L.… Read more
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Poem: Just Around The Bend
Just Around The Bend / Heavens Not So Far Away My precious, little innocent one, sometimes Heaven feels so far away, One moment you’re happy within me, the next, you’ve somehow slipped away. I want you back in my arms so badly, I hate that we’ve been pulled apart. The pain it always lingers now,… Read more
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It’s Not Your Fault
Losing a child to stillbirth can profoundly impact a woman’s relationship with her body. The feelings of self-blame, shame, and guilt can be overwhelming, even though deep down, we know it’s not our fault. This journey of healing involves navigating through these complex emotions and finding a way to accept, love and trust our bodies… Read more
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Postpartum Visit
Last week, I had a checkup with my OBGYN, an event I anticipated to be emotional but didn’t expect to hit me as hard as it did. The waiting room adorned with pictures of newborns and a noticeable absence of stillbirth-related resources made the wait excruciatingly uncomfortable. It felt like a stark reminder of what… Read more