Losing a child to stillbirth can profoundly impact a woman’s relationship with her body. The feelings of self-blame, shame, and guilt can be overwhelming, even though deep down, we know it’s not our fault. This journey of healing involves navigating through these complex emotions and finding a way to accept, love and trust our bodies again. (Easier said than done, I know, I’m not there yet!)
In the aftermath of my stillbirth, I found myself questioning every decision I made during my pregnancy. I replayed every moment, trying to find a reason or a sign that could have alerted me to the impending loss. As someone who prides herself on intuition and body awareness, the guilt of not “knowing” my baby was dying in my womb felt like a heavy burden.
But the truth is, stillbirth is often beyond our control. It’s not something we can predict or prevent, no matter how in tune we are with our bodies. The blame we place on ourselves is a reflection of the immense love we have for our babies, but it’s crucial to remember that we are not to blame.
If you’re experiencing similar feelings, know that you’re not alone. Many loss moms struggle with these emotions, and it’s okay to seek support and guidance as you navigate this journey of healing. You are worthy of love and compassion, especially from yourself.
Join our online community for a safe space to share your thoughts and connect with other Women who understand. 🤍🌿Let’s honor and preserve our baby’s memory together.
Aloha, Mamaste.